Police abuse & “other causes”

I attended a Police Violence Abuse protest a few weeks ago in Washington, DC. I attended for two reasons. For one, I have long known that minorities were policed more heavily, pulled over more often, followed with suspicious eyes in stores more frequently, and imprisoned and killed far more commonly than whites. I understood this to be due to racism. But, recently, I have witnessed another side of police abuse – use of police intimidation for a person’s personal vendetta. So, I attended the rally for a selfish reason, too – because the police are being used to intimidate me. I have been documenting their presence and believe most would agree with me that I am seeing an abnormal amount of cops in my daily routines, particularly by my gym, when I attended a flute class on a regular basis, and when I make trips to visit my out of state relatives.   Here’s the article that mentions others are speaking up about their causes – New York protests against police violence attract other causes, too

The article talks about the police turning their backs on the mayor. I think this is a bit ironic seeing that the police are turning their backs on the public. I’m not saying it’s all police officers, but there are bad apples on the force and we need some systemic change – particularly when it comes to police abuse and misuse with law-abiding, peaceful (and unarmed) citizens.

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Disinformation campaign

The more I learn about organized stalking, the more I see or discover the parallels with other types of abuse. I’m trying to find some academic articles related to organized stalking and found this on Google Scholar. It’s from a Google book and the parallel is with the use of disinformation in WWII and the “false memory syndrome” used in child abuse cases. Both used people (perps) who made false claims. These false victims make the real victims guilty of fraud by association. In other words, there are all these folks that cry wolf and discredit the true targets of organized stalking.

Monarch the New Phoenix Program by Marshall Thomas p. 99

Similarly, there is something called “abuse excuse” in child abuse cases. It’s where a parent is accused of (sexual or non-sexual) child abuse and blames the protective parent of poisoning the mind of the child (this stems from the false memory syndrome). The accused says the child is not afraid of him/her due to child abuse but rather due to the spouse making the child afraid of him/her. It’s called parental alienation syndrome (PAS), which despite the lack of scientific data, has been used in courts. The problem with PAS is that you cannot distinguish the difference between an abused child and the alienated child, so it can be used as an excuse. Also, the more the protective parent tries to prove their case of real abuse, the more the accused spouse can claim PAS and “harm” being done to the child.

Can you see the parallel with organized stalking? For one, there is the disinformation campaign that makes the real victims sound crazy – if the New York Times, for example, says paranoid individuals find support on the Internet, who’s going to believe a real victims that claims it really is happening? If there are “paranoid” victims, it goes to say that all victims are paranoid. Or, so the thinking goes.

Two, like PAS, the perps say the victims are crazy. What is the difference between paranoid individuals claiming somebody is out to get them and sane individuals claiming somebody is out to get them? According to most, nothing. However, BullyOnLine lists the differences between paranoia and hypervigilance. This is information we have to disseminate. There are differences. Truly targeted individuals are not crazy, they are being stalked and harassed by something that I call the perfect crime.

5 Tips for Coping with Organized Stalking

I was mobbed at work and left voluntarily, but the mobbing continued. A bullying expert said it’s now referred to as community-based harassment (CBH). This started about 6 months ago (including mobbing, it’s been 3 years). Even though it hasn’t been that long (it seems like it has), I’ve come up with a list of 5 tips for dealing with the harassment and stalking.

1. Document Everything

If you haven’t already, start keeping a journal. In it, record the harassment and stalking behavior. Capture names, dates, time of day, and any details you remember. Don’t be afraid to ask people their name – I have and they’ve provided them to me. If you don’t get a name, write down what the person looked like – height, build, hair or eye color, etc. Be observant of people and your surroundings. With practice, you’ll get better at observing and documenting.

Similarly, in addition to buying yourself a journal, buy a camera and audio recorder. You can find inexpensive ones (and a wide variety, including spy cams) on eBay. You may want to check with your state about recording people in a nonconsensual manner, but it can help you remember what was said, it may prevent people from saying anything to you (stalkers have a way of knowing whether you have a recorder or not), and it may be helpful if you go to court and it is allowed. Likewise, cameras will help you capture evidence, even if they are just patterns rather than outright harassment or stalking.

Example:

I was treated rudely at Starbucks’ drive through one morning. The guy didn’t tell me the total of the bill or to drive around. When I got to the window, he didn’t look at me – at all. I asked him how much I owed, he mumbled it, and I gave him the money – all the while, he never looked at me. He didn’t tell me how much change I got back, didn’t put my coffee in a sleeve, and didn’t say thank you or good-bye. I strongly suspected this was a case of CBH. I wrote a letter to the supervisor documenting what I experienced and attached information about CBH. Please inform people about CBH – the more we talk about it and expose it – shine a light on it – the sooner we can get it investigated.

2. Don’t React

The stalkers seek reaction. It’s not known whether they are paid for this or what other incentive may be offered. So remember, do not react emotionally. This can be hard and sometimes it’s not possible. But try your best to have self-control and consider it a positive thing that you’re working on (a silver lining). Consider emotional reactions as a treat for stalkers – and remember you want to deprive them of this. If you need to, speak to them calmly and factually. No need to be a doormat – you can still stand up for yourself and should.

I try to think in opposites. So, if the stalkers want a reaction, I don’t react. Whatever I suspect they want or “need,” I try to think of how to counter it.

Example:

I often get ‘crowded’ at a thrift store I shop at, even when there is plenty of space. One day, I was shopping in the size large section, which takes up 2 aisles. A woman followed close behind – so close she was rubbing up against me at times. I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt, but when I went to the other side of the rack, she followed closely. I looked at her and said, “there’s a whole section of size large” and flung my arms out wide. She told me ‘but you’re going about it so methodically.’ She did get the hint and moved on.

3. Consider Your Own Safety

There is some variation to all of our experiences, but sometimes it can be scary. If you haven’t already, start taking security precautions. It can help to have a security camera in your home. Shop around -look on eBay, shop during a holiday or weekend for sales, do some comparison shopping. You can probably find a home camera for $80 and up. Of course, lock your doors and windows at home and lock your car doors when driving. You may need to lock up or at least hide your evidence or give it to someone for safe-keeping. Consider taking a self-defense course, carrying mace, or keeping items by your side (by your bed, on your car door, etc.). Most importantly, CHANGE YOUR ROUTINE. Switch up the routes you take or the times you go out. Keep planning to a minimum – be spontaneous as you can. If you want to have a little fun, fake them out – leave like your going somewhere and then come back home.

4. Learn

Learn as much as you can about organized stalking. There are books on Amazon written by Targeted Individuals. The one I’m reading now is “My life changed forever” by Elizabeth Sullivan. Check out websites, but, from what I can tell, there is a mis-information campaign out there, so it’s hard to tell fact from fiction. If the information really scares you – consider it might just be false. This whole stalking business is meant to get you annoyed, upset, and frightened. These sites may be set up to do exactly that. I don’t know if the government is involved, if this is a non-consensual study, or if technological weapons are being used – I doubt it, but I have no answers. This is all very bizarre behavior, but I try to deal with what I know and experience.

You may also find books on bullying, mobbing, even counter-surveillance helpful. And, remember, you can provide learning opportunities, too – tell your family and friends (to the extent you feel comfortable), bosses, local businesses, doctors, media, etc.. We need to gain exposure for this topic. Fight through the stigma of being called crazy or delusional – if we suffer in silence, we allow this to continue to harm ourselves and others.

Example:

I read something that said to play the radio when you’re not home because anyone working in surveillance needs to listen to everything. So, when I go out, I play the radio to some religious station or the Chinese news!

5. Self-Care

This is probably the most important concern. This is such a stressful situation. It is traumatic and, if you seek mental health care, try to find someone that can treat trauma. Therapy or medications can be very helpful – try them before ever contemplating suicide. Keep the phone numbers to crisis hotlines handy – write them down and keep them by the phone.

Look into religion or spirituality. I like to meditate and try New Age things like shamanic ceremonies, dancing, chanting, dirigidoo, etc. If you don’t have these kinds of events near you, you could find them on the Internet or buy a CD.

Do you have a pet? Could you get one or visit a shelter?

Think about your priorities in life. Focus on the positive or put things into perspective (it was a virtually stalking-free day). It helps me to think about people who’ve been through worse situations – prison camps, the Holocaust, starvation, sexual slavery, etc.

Try to see the silver lining. For me, I feel like I’m learning more about resilience, composure and restraint, empowerment, and assertiveness. This counters the feelings of low self-esteem that comes with the CBH. Some days are better than others – but remember it’s temporary. Also consider the source – the stalkers are the wrong-doers. Abuse is never justifiable.

Try to have fun with the stalkers. Why not? Who says you can’t? Fake them out. Talk to them if you think you’re under surveillance (or sing to them, blast them with music, etc.)  Get defiant, if they do something to you, do it back.

Example:

I get stalkers at the gym, where I go swimming. Once, I showed up at the pool during Aqua Fitness. It was hysterical to see a bunch of men in the pool with the older women! (try to visualize it)

 

I wish you all the very best of luck – I truly do. There is a phrase on one of the movie trailers – if you can take it, you can make it. Please persevere. Namaste.

 

This is what you get when you mess with the police

In light of what is happening all over the country with police brutality, I just want to say that the above quote is embedded in my mind as the start of being targeted…

A co-worker said this to me back in July. Since that time, I see police everywhere I go. They don’t follow me. They don’t try to ticket me. They’re just there. It’s a constant reminder of being targeted (and a waste of tax payers’ money). But, not only that, it’s a form of intimidation and a resource that I cannot turn to for help.

Prevalence of harassment among people with mental health problems

If you didn’t know already, you can use “Google Scholar” to search for journal articles. I just searched for “community based harassment” and found this article on harassment among those with mental health problems. Mental health has been stigmatized for centuries now. I remember writing a paper on this subject in college and being surprised at the extent of it and how it continues to this day. So, not only do folks have to deal with a genuine health problem, but also they have to deal with the stigma and harassment for something that is, or can be, out of their control. This study takes place in Scotland…

Prevalence and experience of harassment of people with mental health problems living in the community

Some inspiration to get you through the day

From time to time, I’ll post inspirational posts or provide links to material to help us cope as we go through this…”Organized stalking” is a word I heard the other day, and I quite like it. I think it may scare people when we use “gang stalking,” although this stuff is scary, it may help to use a term that will help others accept it more easily.

Here’s the link to 7 Strategies to Overcoming Life’s Tragedies

I think it’s important to abide by some of these strategies – don’t quit, live day by day, seek to add value to the rest of the world. I know it’s easier said than done. It might help to write a list of things that inspire you or make you happy. Then, when you are feeling down, upset, or scared, take out this list and do one item. It could be listening to music, taking a walk, watching a YouTube video, etc. It might help to start something new – learn to play the drums, listen to chanting, meditate, do yoga – something that is new to you but also will provide you with a coping strategy. For some, inspirational quotes, mantras, or prayers may get them through the rough spell. I wanted to include “add value to the rest of the world” – please consider how we can resolve this situation, create awareness about it, and help prevent it from occurring to others. I think it’s important that we all chip in towards resolving this stalking issue. It needs to be stopped.

I’ll end with a quote, ““We don’t have to wait for something nice to happen to us, we can be aggressive and do something nice for ourselves.”
Joyce Meyer, eat the cookie. . .buy the shoes

Please, do something nice for yourself. Practice self-care. You’ll get through this. Many folks have survived tragedies like the Holocaust, wars, prisoner camps, etc. We can do it, too!